How committed are you to living a healthy lifestyle?
Is it something that can be thrown off by someone else’s mere suggestion?
Or… Can your commitment be broken by your mood?
A good example mood sabotage is the “stress eater complex”. You could just as easily call it the depressed eater complex, anxious eater complex, or happy eater, the point in all of these tendencies is not the nature of the emotion causing you to jump ship from your commitment, but rather the mere fact that an emotion is the catalyst for doing something you’re going to regret!
It comes down to a choice between two things: relief or success. Don’t get me wrong there is a time and place for relief and relaxation. It’s just that the desire for relief (think serotonin boost from a handful of chocolate) is often at odds with success as it pertains to your health standards and goals.
This may sound cheesy, but temptations for relief that test your commitment should be welcomed with open arms! Every time your commitment overcomes temptation, you get stronger!
So it’s all a matter of perception.
If you can literally welcome the temptation as a chance to “exercise” your commitment this muscle will grow and so will your relationship with your body and mind.
And make no mistake, you do have a relationship with your body.
It’s no different than your relationship with your partner!
I’m going off on a tangent here but just follow me. We will get out of the rabbit hole together.
Think of your partner as your healthy habits. If you don’t have one currently, just remember what being in a happy committed relationship felt like.
In this analogy unhealthy habits would be flirting with someone other than your partner (to an inappropriate degree based on your beliefs and relationship), kissing someone else, and actually cheating on them….
This is an extreme example on purpose to prove my point! There is no judgment here it’s just an analogy ;).
Healthy habits to practice would be staying faithful (the given), spending quality time, giving genuine compliments, performing acts of service, and physical intimacy.
When it comes to your relationship with your body and mind, unhealthy habits would be not making time to prepare for nutrition, chronically skipping workouts, choosing other activities over workouts, getting impatient with your results, not sleeping enough, etc.
Healthy habits include consistently working out, choosing healthy options over junk, investing time in meal prep, appreciating your body and progress, resting and recovering properly, etc.
With all that being said, are you…
A. Having one night stands with healthy habits?
B. Casually dating them?
C. Exclusively seeing them?
D. Married and in head over heels love?
Think about it. Do not skip over this multiple choice question because I guarantee that one of these answers fits you like your favorite pair of shoes!
I’m not saying once you answer D that everything’s going to be perfect! No relationship is perfect or “set in stone”.
They are all fluid and evolving. The important thing is that you’re in it for the long haul. It’s high enough on your priority list to the point where decisions become easier and easier.
There are stages to every committed relationship.
- The infatuation stage
Everything is fresh and novel. You’ve got new workout clothes, a new gym or fitness program, brand new exciting goals, and the results are just pouring in.
2. The “settling down” stage
By this I don’t mean having a white picket fence and kids. At this point you are simply with your partner more often than not during your free time and it becomes your new normal. This could mean working out four days a week (more often than not) and choosing the right foods 80% of the time.
3. Married and in head over heels love
Enough benefits and growth has been experienced to convince you to commit for a lifetime.
- Better sleep
- Less stress
- More energy
- Baggy clothes
- new sexier clothes
- never before seen definition
- Increased strength
- You can move better
- A more intimate intimate relationship
- More self confidence
- Newfound enthusiasm for new activities
After you reach this decision (or this decision simply reaches you) there will surely be challenges, potholes, detractors, and periodic slumps.
And that’s ok! You are now in it for the long haul. The partnership will not always be daffodils and rainbows, but you will be committed to growth.
I want to encourage you to fall in love and get married to your fitness and health. Show it the attention it deserves and you will see tremendous benefits not only in your life, but in the lives of your family and friends.