I live at the gym. As a matter of fact, I have met two women who eventually became my girlfriends at two different gyms I was not working at. What was cool about both of these instances is that conversation sparked naturally. I did start the conversation, but not with the sole intent of picking them up!
Coincidentally, the very day I planned to write this post I’ve been involved in two conversations about gym gawkers (not initiated by myself) AND walked past a group of eight LA city employees that were ravenously ogling a very young woman jogging on the other side of the street.
The most senior of the employees then told his mates “Don’t ever tell me I never gave you guys anything” and they all laughed and stared…. What’s perplexing is that each one of these men would probably engage in a light boring conversation with the girl or be completely silent if they were say, sharing an uber together.
Righteous disgust filled my veins immediately! I’m not proclaiming sainthood, but I more readily empathize with the helpless gawkees because I’ve heard so many bizarre and creepy stories from clients.
My intention here is not to make anybody suspicious or to decrease good ole faith in humanity, but every guy has failed to resist the urge to join in on horny-caveman-groupthink at least once.
The thing is, some guys are disgusted with themselves after the first time when they are 14 or 15, some do it until they “grow up”, and the laggards do it their whole lives.
It’s perfectly healthy to notice and appreciate beauty, but appreciating and ogling are different…
- Appreciating involves a glance, even if slightly longer than usual.
- Ogling is prolonged, unpleasant, and it interrupts the natural flow of life.
- Appreciating is giving in nature and adds value
- Ogling is about wanting to possess or take something away.
- The intentions behind someones stare can be sensed deeply.
The sad thing is, women go to the gym to look and feel good yet sometimes leave feeling disturbed or creeped out. That is not good for workout consistency! It can be uncomfortable and these tips I’m going to share with you shouldn’t even be necessary, but they are. These are the 5 tips on getting ogled less at the gym. I have actually seen some of these work in real life when employed by a girlfriend (we formulated these together).
Go light on or avoid make up altogether.
Guys undoubtedly assume that a dolled up fitness girl is interested in meeting a lucky benchbro. Is this fair? Absolutely not, but I’m just delivering truth.
2. Crank that music way up!
It’s just another barrier for him to work his way through. He’s already nervous (despite what the stares may indicate) so you having to say “what did you say?” in an exaggerated loud tone could potentially scare him off. Or better yet you could just ignore him altogether because your music is blaring.
3. Workout really hard!
This will make them get back to their own workout because they want to impress you! My how the tables have turned.
4. Don’t wear “look at me” attire.
I know, this is the one I may catch some flak over. If you like wearing things that inherently show off your body, the oglers will hover trust me. You can’t act surprised when this happens.
5. Give him a head nod or blank “what the hell are you looking at” stare.
The pretty immediate “What’s up?” nod can actually scare a lot of guys off right off the bat. Because remember, if they are staring incessantly there is probably a severe lack of confidence going on. The what are you looking at stare is your right and you can actually do this in a nice way. If you want to that is.
I hope this gives you a gameplan going into your next workout at the big gym. However, if you don’t want to deal with the prospect of ogling, gawking, inappropriate comments, and pickup attempts, you should try out Fuel Rx Fitness :).
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